Saturday, May 8, 2010

Mom

On this Mother's Day Eve, I thought I'd share a few thoughts about my mom.

She's currently suffering from at least Stage 3 Alzheimer's (not exactly sure which stage she's in but it's up there.) Her condition seems to have worsened since Dad's passing. I'm not sure if that's a coincidence or if we're just all noticing it more now. Or could it be because everything that was once normal in her life has been taken away from her? Dad was definitely making things seem much more "normal" than we realized.

I continue to thank God and our lucky stars that Mom remains a very happy, sunny person. She was always a kind-hearted and loving soul and thankfully her sweet nature continues to manifest itself even through this horrible disease.

She's been regressing a bit lately. She's "having babies" and "getting married" but since those were all happy times in her life, why wouldn't she want to relive them?

On my last visit with her, I tried to take a few photos. It's extremely difficult to get her to focus and look into the camera lens.

Here's my first attempt.



She likes to hold onto a "hanky" most of the time so I dug one out for her. To my surprise instead of blowing her nose, she put it on her head!! Well . . . okay! We'll just go with it.


One more try at a picture. We're getting closer . . .

And here she is, all smiles, holding her "baby." I guess that's what she needed.

And to be honest, she talked more to the baby than she did to me while I visited. I think she finds comfort there. It's challenging for her to carry on a conversation . . . her thoughts just drift away from her. I imagine talking to a baby is much more relaxing.

I wish I could get inside her head for a day to see what it is like for her. I can't even imagine.

I sent her boxes of treats for Mother's Day in the mail. I'm sure she has no idea what they are or who gave them to her. She's likely to make up a good story about the pretty boxes, though.

She's happy. And she sees Dad all of the time. And that makes me happy.

I love you Mom! Happy Mother's Day!

8 comments:

Unknown said...

Kathy,
THANK YOU so much for sharing this story about your mom. You are AMAZING!!! I LOVE the way you talk about her and how you make all things good. YOU are a very special person. God Bless you and yours always. Your mom will be in my prayers that she is always happy:)
Kim Steinke

Kat said...

Kathy,
I have such fond memories of your mother. She was my first employer and one of my first patrons( doing her hair when Ginny needed time off). Although I remember spilling a tray at the restaraunt and I could never get her hair just like Ginny did(LOL) she handled it all with grace. Although she is different now, I still recognize that beautiful smile. I'm sure she's thought of by many with great joy. God bless you in this journey.
Kathy (Geis) Oakman

Kathy W said...

Kim and Kathy - it warms my heart that you are thinking of and praying for mom! She is a real sweetie. And so are you for saying those kind things. THANK YOU and God bless you too!

Anonymous said...

Kathy, it brings tears to my eyes to read this about your Mom, yet how wonderful it is that she is "with" your Dad in her mind. Thanks for sharing and I'll keep the entire Kinninger family in my prayers. Maria York

Anonymous said...

Kathy,
Thank's....shed a few tears but am comforted knowing that she is happy in her own little place. I am also relieved that she is comforted by grandpa...Im sure in her mind she is reminiscing the times that comforted her most...when you all were small...she seems to go there frequently...Thats a Blessing.....Thinking of you guys, I know how hard this is on you...GiGi

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